Category Archives: ON SUFFERING

“Weeping may endure for the night but joy comes in the morning.”

I risked making a category for the theme of “Suffering,” even though I know that many might avoid learning about it as much as they (we) try to avoid experiencing it. So, unless you’re in a season of suffering right now, or know someone who is, you’ll probably be apt to skip these posts altogether. On the other hand, if you’re reading this, it means you’ve at least clicked on the title, so you must have some sort of interest (whether a personal or compassionate one).

Before I had a “dark night of the soul” season myself, I had compassion for sufferers, but didn’t really know how help them. I pastored three churches for about 30 years, and as I look back over my file of messages on this theme, I realize that though I taught biblically, engagingly (if I must say so myself), and compassionately – I really had very little idea of what I was talking about. I think it was all pretty much biblical but not very personal. It’s different with me now.

Now when I hear or read someone’s thoughts on suffering I wonder if they’ve felt significant pain in their own lives or not. If they haven’t, of course they’re not disqualified from teaching others about it, it’s just that there’s a difference between knowledge and wisdom, the latter coming from experience.

I’m not claiming to know everything there is to know about physical, emotional, relational, or spiritual misery; but I have lerned a few things since I’ve wept through a night or two and have also seen the joy that comes in the morning.

Unhooking from the bumper (On forgiving) part one

(Another small random piece of the Memoir…) We cannot go back and undo the damage of yesterday, but we can undo the damage it is causing today. We do that with the act of forgiveness. Steve Arterburn We must develop … Continue reading

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My Darth Vader mask… (part two)

Back to the transplant… It takes three months to go through it and another three months to recuperate from it. It’s really rather grueling. They overdose you with chemo, collect your stem cells and freeze them. Then they chemo you … Continue reading

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My Darth Vader mask… (part one)

It is not true that God wants to teach us something in our trials:  through every cloud he brings, he wants us to unlearn something. His purpose in the cold is to simplify our belief until our relationship to him … Continue reading

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“Jobian”…

[Another random selection from the memoir I'm finishing up...] We ignore the ambiguity that accompanies our finitude, and thus we claim to know what we can’t know. We reduce the unfathomable complexity of the cosmos to the capacity of our … Continue reading

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Fall risk…

I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing. Hillel I was pushed back and about to fall but the Lord helped me. Psalm 118:13 “To him who is able to keep you from falling and to … Continue reading

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Hell and hilarity in the hospital (part two)

[Here's another piece from the memoir I'm preparing to publish soonish... Hope you'll read the whole thing when it's ready.] Another time, during the transplant I got pretty sick and was sentenced to a week in an isolation room in … Continue reading

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Hell and hilarity in the hospital (part one)

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22 I have a newfound respect for anyone who works with the sick and infirmed. I can think of about three hundred careers that I … Continue reading

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Not fair! (part two)

When I lived with Bob and Jean I noticed that they routinely pray for parking places – and pretty much everything else, from good deals on tomatoes at Safeway to revival in America. As for revival, since there are other … Continue reading

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Not fair! (part one)

Once we discover that God has joined our tears and can be moved with compassion, the world becomes a very unpredictable place. M. Craig Barnes Friend, I am not being unfair to you… Don’t I have the right to do … Continue reading

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“Dad, we gotta get us some tattoos!”

When the handwritten message on the wall became clear that our marriage was finished before we actually crossed the finished line (the “till death do us part” part), I was in such emotional turmoil I wanted to put some distance … Continue reading

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